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Enemy<br>A web site dedicated to gender issues for men ... and
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John J. Xenakis</b></font>
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John J. Xenakis gets 15% in run for Auditor for State of
Massachusetts!!!!</font></h3></center>
In an astounding result, John J. Xenakis received some 277,000 votes
in his run for State Auditor of Massachusetts on election day,
November 5, 2002, or 15% of the total vote. Xenakis, an independent,
was virtually unknown in the state, and ran against the solidly
entrenched Democratic candidate, Joe DeNucci, who has held the
position for 18 years. DeNucci received 78% of the vote, and the
Libertarian candidate, Jain, received 7% of the vote. <br>
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<h1>Divorced Men -- Questions and Answers</h1>
Are you a man going through a divorce? (Or a woman caring for a man
going through a divorce?) <i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> gives
you information that's available nowhere else:
<dl><dt> Why Are Social Workers So Acrimonious?</dt>
<dd>Why do social workers generally treat all men as perpetrators and
women as victims? Why do social workers have a policy of always
siding with the mother against the father, irrespective of the facts,
except in the most extreme circumstances?
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> is the only book that tells you
exactly how social workers think, how they reason, why they say and
do the things they do, and what their hidden agendas are. Although
many social workers are top-notch professionals, it seems that many
others are women who evidently aren't very intelligent, but do enjoy
bashing men. These social workers are really extremely predictable,
once you understand what their agenda is. Read <i>Fraternizing With
The Enemy</i> to learn how to evaluate social workers and how to talk
to them.</dd>
<dt>Why Are Children Safer With Their Fathers Than With Their
Mothers?</dt>
<dd>Most <#hreftext frater.a.childabuse "child abusers"#> are mothers.
A child's mother is twice as likely to batter, beat, abuse, starve or
neglect a child as the child's father is.
Social workers' favorite hobby horse is sexual abuse, which is a
small part (10%) of the child abuse problem, but is the only form
where fathers are perpetrators more often than mothers.
However, the most likely sexual abuse perpetrator is neither the
father nor the mother, but the mother's boyfriend (or the child's
stepfather). That means that, overall, children are safest living
with their biological fathers.
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> is loaded with statistics and
facts. It gives you the information you need to help you decide the
best custody or visitation arrangements for your children.
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Are you a man going through a divorce? (Or a woman caring for a man
going through a divorce?) <i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> gives
you information that's available nowhere else:
<dl><dt> Why Do Social Workers Make So Many False Charges Of Domestic
Violence?</dt>
<dd>There are literally millions of false charges of <#hreftext
frater.a.violence "domestic violence"#> brought against men every year.
Many domestic violence charges are valid, of course, but the evidence
suggests that many more are invalid.
The reason is that there are too few valid charges to sustain the
budgets of the various women's agencies, and so to sustain their
budgets, women's agencies support false or phony charges of violence
against men under various pretexts. For example, a social worker may
find a man "dangerous" if he's simply raised his voice during an
argument, but she'll forgive and excuse a woman who batters, neglects
or starves her children.
A man who is kept from seeing his children is advised to fight to see
them, and to keep a complete paper trail. He can show these papers
to his children when they're older to show his children how he fought
against their mother to continue seeing them.
However, a falsely charged man who fights to see his children brings
in lucrative fees and grants to these women's agencies, since each
man who fights to see his children requires additional women's agency
staff to prevent him from doing so. One man quoted in
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> has computed that feminist legal
services agencies have collected several hundred thousand dollars in
grants for his ex-wife's efforts to keep him from seeing her children
and to keep herself from being deported.
</dd>
<dt>My Ex-Wife And Her Boyfriend Are Abusing My Children. What Can I
Do?</dt>
<dd>These are the most heartbreaking stories I've heard from men.
I've spoken to men close to tears because they had to watch
helplessly as their kids suffered horrible abuse, all condoned and
excused by social workers.
Most <#hreftext frater.a.childabuse "child abusers"#> are the
children's mothers: women batter, neglect or starve children twice as
often as men do. When sexual abuse or child rape is involved, even
then the perpetrator is seldom the child's biological father -- it's
more likely to be the mother's boyfriend or new husband.
Because of social workers' policy of siding with the mother against
the father in all but the most extreme cases, there is little a
father can do to prevent his children from being abused by his
ex-wife or her boyfriend. Two fathers told me they weren't
able to obtain custody until their ex-wives had actually broken bones
in the children's hands.
</dd>
<dt>I Wish My Ex-Wife Were Dead. What Should I Do?</dt>
<dd> Many men are surprised to find, when they go through a divorce,
that they hate their ex-wives more than they'd ever believed it was
possible to hate anyone.
None of the men that I spoke to would ever hurt their ex-wives, but
wishing to see them dead appears to be an almost universal among men
going through a divorce.
When I speak to men, I tell them how important it is to manage their
anger, and not threaten or hurt anyone.
In order to show them that their intense hatred is quite common, I
repeat to them some of the comments that I've heard from other men,
including the following:
<ul>
"If my ex-wife and her husband were killed in an automobile, that
would be a good solution, and it would be God's solution."
"I was ready to kill her. I can understand why men kill their wives.
Anyone in that situation would feel that way. If a man gets pushed
too far, you do things you'll regret later. I was very afraid of
losing my cool. I didn't want to go to jail. I didn't want my
emotions to take over. I'm a level-headed non- violent person, and
that's probably why I never did anything. But someone a little less
intelligent than me, or who has a temper a little more dangerous than
mine, might have done something."
"I feel bad for men who don't have the kind of money it takes to
force their wives to let them see their children, and who don't
recognize that they could be violent, and do something about it. I
know why that man killed his kids last summer - his wife was going to
take his kids away from him. I feel bad for these other men who
can't control themselves because of their kids - it's a scary thought
that you're not going to see your kids every day. I haven't seen my
kids since Thursday night. It's now Sunday - and I miss them terribly.
I wish I were with them today."
"There have been times when I was homicidal, especially when she
fucked around so badly with the visitation. I'd drive for an hour to
see my kids, and half the time she wasn't even there. She'd say she
forgot to call me. I was just livid on a couple of occasions. I
wanted to go over and strangle her, kill her. I really did. But I
said to myself, that won't get me anything. She's pushed me hard,
very hard, but thank God I haven't done anything, and thank God I
don't drink. I don't say that women deserve it, and don't get the
idea that I would ever do anything, but she's pushed me real close.
She's formidable."
"I can understand why men kill their ex-wives. It's the system that
makes these men turn to killers. ... A friend of mine told me, `if
you had murdered your ex-wife eight or nine years ago, at least you'd
be out of jail by now a free man.' That's why men kill their
ex-wives."
"I was absolutely infuriated by what she did. I can't tell you how
furious and humiliated I was. If I were inclined to drinking, I
would have gone on a binge. If I were inclined to violence at all,
which thank goodness I'm not, then I might well have killed my ex-wife
at that time, and all the restraining orders in the world wouldn't
have made a difference. Women don't seem to understand this stuff.
As it stood, all I did was argue with her."
"If she were killed in an auto accident, and my son wasn't in the
car, I would dance."
</ul>
Other men didn't put it so strongly, but many men said something
like, "I would never do anything myself, but I understand why men
kill their ex-wives." None of these men were violent, and none of
them condoned violence. They were using violence as a metaphor for
their hatred they felt for their children's mother.
Feminists claim that men like these are angry "because they can no
longer control their wives." This is a rationalization used by women
to justify their actions, which they know are morally wrong. None of
these men -- and there were quite a few of them -- said anything to me
that even vaguely resembles the desire to control or have sex with
their ex-wives, any more than they would want to control, for example,
a cockroach. All of these men feel nothing but contempt, disgust and
hatred for their ex-wives and for the shameful acts of their ex-wives,
fully supported by feminist social workers and pediatricians, in
keeping their children away from their fathers, and shutting fathers
out of their children's lives.
If you feel this way, then you have to understand that you have to
control your hatred. Social workers and ex-wives are quite aware of
your hatred and anger, and many of them incite it further in order to
get you to make a mistake that they can use against you.
Your main weapon against your ex-wife is not violence but the truth.
Keep a detailed paper trail of all her actions, and of the actions of
all the social workers and other women professionals you come into
contact with, and then wait .... wait until your children get older
and start asking you what happened. In response to their questions,
you can show them the papers and what their mother did. This is the
best non-violent way to vent your anger.</dd>
<dt>Do men who hate their ex-wives hate all women?</dt>
<dd>Absolutely not. My interviews with divorced men showed that they
hate their ex-wives do so because of specific actions that their
ex-wives have taken, but that they view other women in perfectly
normal ways. This has been confirmed by research: In a study of
divorced and recently remarried men using standard psychological
evaluation tests, these men described themselves in generally normal
ways, and also described their new wives in generally normal ways.
But they described their ex-wives in highly negative and deviant
terms as compared with normal responses.</dd></dl>
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<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> is 420 pages long and is
encyclopedic in its coverage of gender issues.
This book provides unique information not available anywhere else.
For each topic, this book gives you:
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most credible government and professional researchers.</li>
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Information that you need to help you deal with social workers, human
relations people, and other people, usually women, usually
pro-feminist, who charge men with a variety of "gender crimes."
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with rape or an accusation of rape, or perhaps because you're involved
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chapter 2, you'll read about the feminist view of rape, the politics
of rape, and the latest research on how serial rapists succeed at what
they do, as well as information on evidence linking pornography and
rape and the prevalence of date rape.
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find the latest child abuse statistics, and the differences between
sociopathic or pathological and transactional child abusers, and how
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=// Women file for divorce twice as often as men, and many studies have
=// shown that men suffer considerably more in divorce, with much higher
=// rates of depression, illness and suicide.
=//
=// And that should be no surprise. Many men work for only one purpose
=// -- to provide for their families, and to enjoy the benefits of family
=// life. When their family lives are destroyed, many feel they no
=// longer have any real purpose in working, or any real purpose of
=// living. And then to be forced to make substantial child support
=// payments to the ex-wife who, two out of three times, engineered that
=// destruction, generates hatreds in him that last for
=// decades.
=//
=// Then comes the next shock: The social workers, psychologists, and
=// judges, mostly women, side against him consistently, <i>as a matter
=// of policy</i>, and irrespective of the facts. One man after another
=// told me how they were treated acrimoniously and contemptuously by
=// social workers and other women professionals, for no other reason than
=// that they were men.
=//
=// I understand that Susan Faludi, the most widely quoted feminist
=// author of the 1990s, has said that she's puzzled as to why men dislike
=// feminists who, she says, only want equal pay and equal rights for
=// women.
=//
=// However, everyone agrees about equal pay and equal rights for women.
=// The real face of feminism today is the acrimonious social worker who
=// treats every man as an abuser, simply because he's a man.
=//
=// So, some years ago, I decided that I would write a book on men and
=// divorce -- to tell men's stories, and what's happening to them.
=//
=// But as I talked to people, I discovered that feminists have an
=// enormous weapon, a weapon so terrifying that it sends any man
=// running for his life (metaphorically).
=//
=// All a women's group has to do is bring forward just one woman telling
=// how she's been beaten by her husband, or raped by her father, and
=// nothing else really matters. It doesn't matter if a million men's
=// and children's lives are being destroyed by social workers and
=// ex-wives, if just one women was beaten by her husband or raped by her
=// father, then none of that matters.
=//
=// "So what if men are a little inconvenienced by social workers," these
=// women would say. "You men harass, abuse and batter women all the
=// time, so you deserve anything you get."
=//
=// That's when I learned that writing about divorce was not enough. I
=// had to greatly expand my research into other gender issues --
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=//
=// What I found was frightening and depressing. As I researched one
=// policy area after another, I found that there was nothing to any of
=// it but bare-knuckle politics -- by the open admission of the
=// feminists themselves through their doctrine, "The Personal is
=// Political." Research is routinely exaggerated and distorted, and
=// researchers who disagree are sometimes even threatened or purposely
=// misquoted and. There were even some out and out hoaxes, such as
=// Lenore Walker's Super Bowl hoax and Lenore Weitzman's child support
=// hoax, purely to gain political power and public funding.
=//
=// Even worse, the evidence suggests that feminist politics and feminist
=// organizations stand to gain the most by making false accusations of
=// harassment or rape or domestic violence against innocent men, because
=// innocent men are more likely to try to fight back in court, and more
=// likely to fight to see their children. There are tens of thousands
=// of false charges of domestic violence each year in Massachusetts
=// alone, and men fighting back against these charges generate millions
=// or perhaps billions of dollars in grants and fees for various feminist
=// organizations -- social service organizations, court clinics, battered
=// women's shelters, visitation centers, feminist legal services
=// agencies, women's protective services -- that collude with each other
=// and with women judges, following the feminist policy of always siding
=// with the mother against the father, to bring these false charges for
=// the benefit of all of them.
=//
=// Worst of all, no one -- least of all the feminists implementing the
=// policies -- ever claims that women are happier, less harassed, less
=// raped, less abused, or less battered.
=//
=// Indeed, there is evidence that just the opposite is true: Aggressive
=// sexual harassment hyping may have cost women millions of good-paying
=// jobs; hyping domestic violence figures makes it seem normal,
=// discouraging women from leaving violent relationship and men from
=// trying to change things, and also prevents couples in relationships
=// with some violence from getting help.
=//
=// As I examined one feminist policy after another, I found that some
=// feminist policies help women, many of the hurt women, but they all
=// have one thing in common: They are designed to make money for private
=// feminist organizations, usually by less than ethical means, to line
=// the pockets of the people in charge, to provide money for their
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<h1>Rape</h1>
<dl><dt>How Do Rapists Get Away With Doing What They Do?</dt>
<dd> Rapists exhibit a range of violence, depending on their own
motivations and history. The most dangerous is the "anger
retaliatory rapist," who is furious at women for real or imagined
wrongs, and lashes out periodically by raping a woman victim and
often killing her afterwards. However, it's more common for rapists
to simply threaten violence, or to employ a small amount of violence,
just enough to get his victim to comply sexually.
In most cases, a rapist is a skilled con artist. Women love him
because he's so charming, which gives him the ability to convince a
woman to be alone with him so he can victimize her. It's typical for
rapists to attend rape prevention seminars or read detective
magazines, to learn what techniques police use to catch rapists.</dd>
<dt>How Frequently Do Women Lie About or Mis-Identify Rapists?</dt>
<dd>Unfortunately, false and mistaken accusations of rape are not
uncommon. Four to seven percent of all rape charges are simply lies
-- brought by women either seeking attention for themselves or to get
even with a man for some real or imagined wrong.
When a woman is raped by a stranger and subsequently identifies the
rapist, 25-30% of the time she identifies the wrong man. (This is
actually not a surprising figure: Over 25% of eyewitness
identifications in <i>all</i> crimes are wrong.)
Many men who were wrongly identified and jailed as rapists in the 80s
are now being freed from jail as they use newly developed DNA
technology to prove that they could not possible have committed the
crimes of which they were convicted.</dd>
<dt>What's The Feminist Position On Rape?</dt>
<dd>Feminists and women activists, seeking additional funding for
social workers, rape counselors and counseling centers, frequently
wildly exaggerate the incidence of rape. The most famous of these
exaggerations is the claim that one in four girls gets raped in
college, even though the actual rape incidence is a small fraction of
1%. It's not uncommon for researchers to receive pressure or threats
to force them to report much a higher incidence of rapes than actually
occur.
Most feminist rape policy has the side effect of harming <i>real</i>
rape vicims by making them less credible.
In order to further inflate rape statistics, feminists use a variety
of arguments to claim that ordinary consensual sex is sometimes rape.
Some feminists claim that any sex is rape unless the woman initiates
sex, and does so out of desire. Others claim that any consensual sex
between a male boss and female employee is "constructive rape," since
the employee has no choice. (We don't hear this so much any more
since the Clinton sex scandals occurred.) Another claim is that
consensual sex is rape if the woman has had even a single glass of
wine, since the alcohol makes the woman incapable of giving meaningful
consent to sex.
Feminists use such arguments to inflame supporters and generate
monetary contributions and government funding of feminist counselors,
but these arguments also trivialize rape, and make the <i>real</i>
rape victim less believable, and more likely to have her claims of
rapes challenged.
Finally, feminists destroy the credibility of real rape victims by
claiming that rape is a "political crime," used by men to keep women
down. For example, feminist Marilyn French claims (without evidence)
that rape is "normal," and that it's "so automatic is society's
acceptance of male rapists as a fact of life that journalists often
conceal this form of male predation." Remarks like these, which are
very common among feminists, imply that rape is not even a real crime
(since political crimes are not real crimes), and further hurt
<i>real</i> rape victims.
My view is that real rape victims have been terribly hurt by false
and exaggerated feminist claims, and that women's organizations
should reverse direction and start treating rape as a serious crime,
rather than just a fundraising tool.</dd>
<dt>What Happens To Women Who Lie About Rape?</dt>
<dd>This situation is made even worse by prosecutors who refuse to
prosecute women who make malicious false charges of rape, thus
creating the impression that a woman looking for vengeance can make a
false charge of rape essentially "for free."
Once again, it's <i>real</i> rape victims who suffer. Since a woman
who makes a false rape accusation, even one that destroys a man's
life, is simply forgiven and sent on her way, she makes it appear
that all rape claims are false. A man accused of rape can simply
say, "This is just like the situation with Jane Smith two years ago.
She made wild rape accusations that turned out to be false, and no
one even punished her. Women are always making false rape claims,
and the one against me is no different."</dd>
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<h1>Domestic Violence</h1>
<dl><dt>How Often Does Domestic Violence Occur?</dt>
<dd>Some 16% of families have some husband-wife violence (6% have
severe violence), broken down as follows:
<ul><li>In <b>4%</b> of marriages, <b>only the man</b> is
violent.</li>
<li>In <b>4%</b> of marriages, <b>only the woman</b> is violent.</li>
<li>In <b>8%</b> of marriages, <b>both</b> the man and the woman are
violent.</li>
<li>In <b>84%</b> of marriages, violence <b>does not</b>
occur.</li></ul></dd>
<dt>How Important is Violence By Women?</dt>
<dd>Very important -- just ask any man whose wife has gouged his eyes
with her long fingernails.
Violence by women against children is a major problem, and women are
as violent to their husbands as husbands are to wives (although
violent men do more damage than violent women because of their greater
physical strength).
However, feminists claim that violence by women is nonexistent or not
important.
The fact that a man is physically stronger than a woman doesn't make
any difference when a woman is violent. Many men won't strike a
woman under any circumstances, even when she's violent, and even if
he does defend himself with violence, that just means both parties
are violent.</dd>
<dt>How Does Violence By Women Affect Children?</dt>
<dd>There's reason to believe that violence by women "trains the next
generation of batterers." An abusive father would seem quite clearly
wrong to a boy, but a boy might have ambiguous feelings about whether
a violent, abusive mother is wrong, and a violent or abusive mother
might have the effect on the boy of appearing to condone abuse or
violence.
A boy who sees his mother initiate violence against his father may
well get the feeling that women <i>like</i> violence, and
<i>enjoy</i> violence, or that she gets <i>erotic pleasure</i> out of
violence, whereas he would only get feelings of hatred or revulsion
when his father initiates violence against his mother. This becomes
even more pronounced when <#hreftext frater.a.childabuse "Child Abuse"#>
is involved. Most child abusers are mothers, and the feeling in a boy
that family violence is OK would be strengthened if his mother beat
him.</dd>
<dt>How Do The Courts View Domestic Violence?</dt>
<dd>In terms of public policy, all of this is ignored. If you're a
man with violence in your relationship, then the police and the
courts will blame the violence on you, even if your wife is violent
and you aren't. Even if you're not violent but your wife is, you will
be restrained, charged, and sometimes jailed.
The evidence indicates that this public policy leads to considerable
abuse. Nationally, millions of restraining orders are issued against
men on the word of a woman who says that she simple "feels" that
violence might occur. The fact that only some 4% of restraining
orders are renewed by women when they expire after a year indicates
that an overwhelming number of these restraining orders are based on
phony charges.</dd>
<dt>How Do Women's Organizations Benefit From False Charges of
Domestic Violence?</dt>
<dd>The evidence indicates that various women's organizations collude
with one another to bring false charges of domestic violence against
men. These women's organizations -- social service organizations,
court clinics, women's advocates, women's shelters, visitation
centers, feminist legal services agencies, women's protective
services, and so forth -- support each other to bring false charges
of abuse against men in order to increase their own budgets.
These women's organizations get their funding from government grants
and United Way grants. In order to justify these grants, they need
to generate as many charges of abuse as possible, and they need to
get as many women as possible to live in women's shelters.
Unfortunately for them, there are far too few truly violent men to
come anywhere close to justifying their budgets.
Bringing a charge of abuse against a man is very lucrative for these
agencies because the man will fight back against the charges. When
he fights back, all these women's organizations provide services to
the woman making the charges -- everything from psychological
evaluations to legal support to free housing, even picking her up and
driving her to court. A single falsely charged man may bring
tens of thousands of dollars per year in grants to these women's
agencies. The people who run these agencies use this money to pay
their own salaries, as well as the salaries of their feminist
friends.
These women's organizations receive no oversight, either from other
government agencies or from the press. The only oversight is one
women's agency checking on another women's agency. The evidence
seems to indicate that these women's agencies not only do not check
on one another, but actually collude with one another with false
charges, in order to obtain lucrative grants. The evidence suggests
that the grants to these agencies for false charges of abuse against
men totals billions of dollars per year.</dd></dl>
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<h1>Sexual Harassment</h1>
<dl><dt>What is sexual harassment?</dt>
<dd>Women's activists favor the so-called "reasonable woman" standard:
A man is guilty of sexual harassment if a "reasonable woman" feels
that he has been harassing her. Women adopted this standard widely in
the early to mid 1990s, when they greatly increased the number of
sexual harassment complaints they brought against men, often for what
men considered to be extremely trivial matters.</dd>
<dt>Why Is the "Reasonable Woman" Standard A Disaster For Women?</dt>
<dd>The evidence presented in <i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> shows
that the "reasonable woman" standard has been an absolute, total
disaster for women. Here are some examples.
Following the Clarence Thomas hearings, and Anita Hill's testimony
that he had told her some dirty jokes and asked her out, the
relationship between men and women in the marketplace became
enormously hostile, and this hostility ended up hurting women.
For example, one man, who runs a professional office and is quoted in
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i>, had had the practice since the 70s
of hiring a woman college graduate each year to serve as an intern for
a year. Many of these went on to become professionals in their own
right. However, following Anita Hill's testimony, this man changed
his policy, and decided he would never hire another woman intern.
Since that time, he's only hired male interns.
Another example: A man ran an office where he normally had about a
dozen women social workers working for him. He told me, "I don't
dare even tell my employees, 'You look nice today,' because I'm
afraid she'll bring sexual harassment charges. The only exception is
my secretary -- she's worked for me for ten years, and I can trust
her."
In fact, almost every man I spoke to had some story. One man told he
that he'd seen a condom machine in a men's room, and he mentioned
briefly to a woman associate how shocked he was to see it; she
brought a sexual harassment complaint. "There's something wrong with
women. They're crazy."
One man after another told me they didn't want to have anything to
with women in the workplace. By extrapolating these examples, one
can estimate that literally millions of jobs nationwide suddenly
became unavailable to women. And women in the workplace were viewed
by men as being unstable, unreliable, untrustworthy or "crazy." In
many cases the only reason that women got jobs at all is because they
were willing to take lower pay than men.</dd>
<dt>Did Women Gain Anything From The Anita Hill Disaster?</dt>
<dd>I've heard from women who brought sexual harassment complaints
against someone, and it was always disastrous for the accused man, but
it was also disastrous for the accusing woman. These women were
treated with hostility by everyone else, including other women. It
was always much worse for them after they brought charges.
I saw one occasion like this with my own eyes between two people I
knew at work. The man said something dumb to the woman purposely to
annoy her. She complained to the HR rep. The HR rep, a woman,
called the man into her office and accused him of harassment. He got
angry and quit, and got another job immediately elsewhere, at higher
pay. The company lost a valuable worker, and everyone, especially the
women, <i>especially</i> the man's (female) manager, were furious at
this woman who brought the sexual harassment complaint and caused so
much trouble.
I've never heard a woman, feminist or non-feminist or whatever, who
has said that as a result of the aftermath of the Anita Hill
accusations, women are happier or better off or less harassed. In
fact, feminists are complaining about harassment as much as ever.
So, we've gone through all this turmoil for nothing.</dd>
<dt>What Is The Model Harassment Policy?</dt>
<dd>In 1994, I worked online with Cheryl Kondratow, head of a New
Jersey organization, Women Against Sexual Harassment, to develop a
<#hreftext frater.a.modelpolicy "Model Harassment Policy"#> that both
men and women would agree with. I believe that it's a real
advancement for both men and women, and has the potential for
<i>really</i> reducing sexual harassment and other kinds of harassment
in the workplace.</dd></dl>
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<h1>Model Harassment Policy - Fall, 1994</h1>
<i>(This Model Harassment Policy was developed in Fall, 1994, by John
J. Xenakis and Cheryl Kondratow. Click here to <#hreftext
frater.a.harass "return to Sexual Harassment"#>)</i>
Although we all value our freedom to do as we please, we live in an
increasingly crowded world where what we do is increasingly likely to
be offensive or harmful to others. If someone's behavior is
offensive or harmful to you, then that person may be harassing you.
This policy defines specific rules for what harassment is, and how to
handle it.
This policy covers, but is not limited to, potentially offensive
behaviors in the following areas: (1) age, (2) race, (3) color, (4)
national origin, (5) religion, (6) sex, (7) sexual orientation, (8)
disability status and (9) veterans status.
<h2>Behavior Categories</h2>
Potentially offensive behaviors are divided into three categories:
<b>Category I:</b> Behaviors that are almost always considered
harassing, unless prior permission has been granted:
<ul><li>Hitting, grabbing, pulling, pushing.</li>
<li>Physical threats ("have sex with me or you'll die")</li>
<li>Touching or kissing sensitive parts of the body, including face,
genitals, breasts, bum.</li>
<li>Job-related threats ("Contribute to this political party, or
you'll lose your job.")</li></ul>
<b>Category II:</b> Behaviors which may or may not be considered
offensive, depending on personal and regional preferences.
<ul><li>Use of swear words or use of epithets for any of the nine areas
listed above.</li>
<li>Telling jokes with content in any of the nine areas listed above.</li>
<li>Inappropriate use of words of affection, such as: honey, sonny, boy,
sweetie, girl, or babe.</li>
<li>Touching a hand or arm, or putting one's arm around another's
shoulders.</li></ul>
<b>Category III:</b> Third party behaviors which may offend someone
in the same location. The offended person may request some
modification in working conditions to resolve the problem.
<ul><li>Posting or openly reading material in any of the nine areas
listed above.</li>
<li>Other people gossiping and talking to each other about you in a
malicious and personal way.</li>
<li>Verbally abusive behavior between two other people.</li>
<li>Open and inappropriate displays of physical affection.</li>
<li>Any category II behavior which might be overheard by an
uninvolved third party. (Example: Two people discussing sexual,
religious, political or racial matters, overheard by a third
party.)</li></ul>
<h2>Procedures for Handling Offensive Behavior</h2>
If someone's behavior is offensive to you, then you have a right, in
many circumstances, to have the behavior stopped or modified so that
it is not offensive to you.
Experience has shown that many people engaging in offensive
behaviors, especially those in Categories II and III, are often not
even aware that others consider their behavior offensive. If you are
offended by someone's behavior, you are encouraged to "draw the line"
with the person by telling him or her how you feel; very often that's
all that will be needed to stop the offensive conduct. In the case of
Category III, the solution might be as simple as separating you from
the person(s) whose behavior is offending you.
However, there are some situations where you are justified in
bringing an actual charge of harassment against the offender. This
is the case, for example, for the extremely offensive behaviors in
Category I. But this is also true for the less offensive behaviors
in Categories II and III if you have "drawn the line" with a person
who continues to "cross the line" by continuing the offensive
behaviors.
<i>Example:</i> (1) Your boss tells you that won't get a promotion
unless you attend a political event with him or her. This behavior
is harassment even without a "draw the line" warning. (2) A
co-worker calls you "honey," and continues to do so even after you
"draw the line" by telling the co-worker that you find that term
offensive. The behavior was not harassment before you "drew the line,"
but became harassment afterwards.
<h2>Authors</h2>
Cheryl Kondratow, Women Against Sexual Harassment (WASH),
Absecon, N.J.
John J. Xenakis, Framingham, Mass., 508-875-4266, e-mail:
john@jxenakis.com
Copyright © 1994-95 by Cheryl Kondratow and John J. Xenakis.
This model harassment law may be reproduced in its entirety, without
permission, provided that this copyright notice is included.
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<h1>Child Abuse</h1>
<dl>
<dt>How Common Is Child Abuse?</dt>
<dd>Child abuse occurs in about 2% of American homes.</dd>
<dt>Who Are The Perpetrators Of Child Abuse?</dt>
<dd>In over 70% of cases of child abuse, the mother is the perpetrator
or one of the perpetrators; in 35% of the cases, the father is the
perpetrator or one of the perpetrators.
"Women who severely injure or kill children are typically closely
related to the victim: A child's mother is more likely to kill or
injure him than his stepmother is," according to one researcher.
"Male offenders tend to be more distantly related to their victims: A
child's stepfather or the boyfriend of his mother is more likely to
kill or injure him than his father is."</dd>
<dt>Why Are Women Relatively So Violent To Children?</dt>
<dd>This is puzzling to many people, especially when combined with
the statistic that women in the home are perpetrators of just as much
<#hreftext frater.a.violence "domestic violence"#> as men.
You never see women get into fistfights on the street or in barroom
brawls, so why are women so violent (relative to men) to their
husbands and children in the home?
The key to understanding this is something that every man learns when
he's in a relationship with a woman: that no matter how tentative,
polite, and subordinate a woman is with strangers, she is much more
confrontational, emotional and demanding within the home. This
difference is also confirmed by research. These research results
suggest that, although few men or women are violent, violence in
women is much more personal and family-oriented than violence in
men.</dd>
<dt>Why Does Television Always Portray Only Fathers As Child
Abusers?</dt>
<dd>Television reporters repeat what women's activists tell them, and
women's activists ignore all child abuse except one form, sexual
child abuse. Sexual child abuse is only a small part (10%) of the
child abuse problem.
Even in the case of child sexual abuse, the figures aren't nearly as
skewed as women's activists claim. The figures are that 27% of the
perpetrators are mothers and 35% of the perpetrators are fathers.
The reason that television and newspapers report much higher levels
of child sexual abuse by fathers is because, for political and
fund-raising reasons, women's activists combine sexual abuse by the
mother's boyfriends with sexual abuse by the biological father.
Most child sexual abusers are men, but they're most likely another
relative, or the mother's boyfriend, or the child's stepfather. The
biological father is almost as unlikely as the mother to sexually
abuse a child.</dd>
<dt>What's The Difference Between "Pathological" And "Transactional"
Child Abuse?</dt>
<dd>Pathological or sociopathic child abuse is the kind of behavior
that makes you wonder how the perpetrators can be part of the human
race. Examples are: a man rapes his 8 year old niece repeatedly and
a mother punishes her misbehaving 4 year old son by immersing his
hands in boiling water.
Transactional child abuse is the kind of behavior that happens day to
day in homes dealing with ordinary stress. An example is a parent
who shouts at a child or slaps him once in a while.</dd>
<dt>How can we change public policy to reduce the amount of child
abuse in society?</dt>
<dd>One can prove with almost mathematical certainty that it's
impossible to prevent pathological child abuse, although fortunately
events in that grisly category happen only rarely.
But there are programs designed to prevent transactional child abuse,
which can happen in families with even the best parents at times of
great frustration. Much of it occurs right after birth of the child, a
time when both parents are likely to be depressed and confused. These
programs provide for outreach to new parents, to help reduce stress
and solve problems, thereby reducing the level of child
abuse.
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> contains the facts, figures and
researcher information you need to help you understand what child
abuse is, and what to do about it.</dd></dl>
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<h1>Hoaxes</h1>
Unfortunately, most reporters are extremely gullible when it comes to
reporting gender issues, because they never question what women
activists tell them. Apparently male reporters immediately go into a
testosterone fog which makes them lose their ability to think, and
female reporters simply side with the women's activists in order to
be part of the sisterhood. That's why male and female reporters
repeat some really ridiculous exaggerations in the areas of
<#hreftext frater.a.violence "Domestic Violence"#>, <#hreftext
frater.a.rape Rape#> and <#hreftext frater.a.harass "Sexual
Harassment"#>.
However, there are two major hoaxes that have had wide effects on
public policy.
<h2>Lenore Walker's Super Bowl Hoax</h2>
In January, 1993, a group of women's activists, led by Lenore Walker,
a Denver psychologist and author of <i>The Battered Woman</i>,
announced that 40% more men beat up their wives on Super Bowl day
than on other days. The credulous press ate it up; e.g., Michael
Collier of the <i>Oakland Tribune</i> wrote that the Super Bowl causes
"boyfriends, husbands and fathers" to "explode like mad linemen,
leaving girlfriends, wives and children beaten." What reporter
wouldn't be thrilled to spew out this kind of stuff?
The statistic was supposedly based on surveys and research, but the
hoax was revealed when one <i>Washington Post</i> staff writer, Ken
Ringle, actually had the temerity to check out the feminists'
sources, and discovered that some researchers had been misquoted, and
some statistics had been made up. In the end, it turns out that the
hoax was total, and nothing special happens on Super Bowl Sunday,
except that a football game is played. Unfortunately, the statistic
is still quoted frequently, even though it's false and extremely
offensive to men, and particularly offensive to football fans.
Incidentally, I've had similar experiences in my own online
discussions with women's activists. Sometimes, someone posts distorted
figures online, quoting somebody's research. I do some of my own fact
checking, and on several occasions I've telephoned the quoted
researcher or obtained the published results, and discovered, rarely
to my surprise, that the distorted claims had no relationship to
reality. For some reason, whenever I post the findings from my fact
checking online, it never seems to make me very popular with these
women's activists.
<h2>Lenore Weitzman's Child Support Hoax</h2>
Two out of three times, the person filing for divorce is the mother,
with the father opposed. The reason so many women are filing for
divorce, usually for very trivial reasons, is because of the enormous
increase in child support payments that most states have mandated.
Most mothers getting a divorce make the calculation that they can be
free of the commitments of marriage by filing for divorce and then
collecting lucrative child support payments, which they can spend on
their own lifestyle in any way they want.
The reasons that so many states enacted these substantial child
support increases is because of a hoax perpetrated by Lenore
Weitzman, then an associate professor at Harvard University, in her
1985 book, <i>The Divorce Revolution: The unexpected social and
economic consequences for women and children in America</i>.
Weitzman's principal conclusion was that, after a divorce, "on the
average, divorced women and the minor children in their households
experience a 73 percent decline in their standard of living in the
first year after divorce. Their former husbands, in contrast,
experience a 42 percent rise in their standard living."
Weitzman's conclusion resonated with credulous press and legislators
who are willing to believe anything, no matter how silly, from
feminist sources. Her conclusion was widely quoted, and it inspired
huge increases in mandated child support payments in many states.
The problem is that the conclusion, and in fact, most of the book,
was a hoax. Her conclusion was supposedly based on statistical
analysis of survey data, but no one else who analyzed the same data
could duplicate her results.
Researchers started calling immediately seeking clarification, but
she stalled, prevaricated, and lied for ten years. Only in 1996 did
she acknowledge that her conclusions were wrong.
She had made obvious computational errors, she had used obsolete
methodologies, she had ignored tax issues, she had exaggerated
expenses that the mother supposedly had to pay, and ignored major
expenses that the father actually had to pay. In the end, her book
was just a hack job by a hack feminist researcher.
What is the legacy of Weitzman's hoax?
When welfare entitlements rose substantially in the 70s, teen girls
and young women moved massively to becoming pregnant in order to take
advantage of these welfare payments. (A young girl frequently uses
the term "liberation day" to refer to her 16th birthday, the first day
that she can get a free apartment and welfare payments provided that
she's unmarried and pregnant.)
This abuse of welfare was so massive that in America one out of three
children is born out of wedlock. These children are much more likely
than children in intact families to be abused or an abuse victim, to
become teen parents, to be involved with drugs, and/or to be in the
criminal justice system.
With welfare reform in the 90s, these welfare payments dried up, and
these young women looked for another source of money for their
lifestyles. Thanks to Lenore Weitzman's hoax and the big increase in
child support payments, these girls have turned to young men to
replace welfare.
Here is what one of them said:
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<ul><p>"You men think that you're hunting us, but we're hunting
you."</p></ul>
<p>There are a number of women like her who go to bars and nightclubs to
find men who make a good salary. They have no interest in having a
relationship with these men, only to get pregnant and collect child
support. Some of these young women collect two or child support
checks each week. They add:</p>
<ul><p>"We own you. You're a slave. You're going to pay us every
single week for the next 20 years. We can have an outside agency
[the Massachusetts Department of Revenue] collect the money for us
and send it to us, and if you don't pay us, we can have you put into
jail. And you'll do anything we say, because otherwise we won't let
you see your child."</p></ul>
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This is the legacy of Lenore Weitzman's hoax. She should be ashamed
of herself, but I suspect that, wherever she is now, she's probably
gloating.
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<h1>Marriage</h1>
<dl><dt>What Are Women's Attitudes Toward Marriage?</dt>
<dd>Chapter 4 of <i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> shows with
research and numerous examples how much contempt many women feel
today for marriage and for married women -- and for men.
Many feminists claim that marriage is nothing more than legalized
slavery. Others say that marriage nothing more than "serving the
needs of a man" or "spending your life pleasing some man."
In one online women's forum, I started a discussion entitled, "Is
anyone willing to defend marriage?" That discussion has continued, off
and on, for months, and not a single woman was willing to defend
marriage. There are some women who will say that their own marriages
are OK, but no one will defend marriage in general as being good for
women -- although many will condemn marriage in general as being bad
for women. It's really a very remarkable development.
One author, Danielle Crittenden, describes it as follows: "The habit
of viewing marriage as a raw deal for women is now so entrenched, even
among women who don't call themselves feminists, that I've seen brides
who otherwise appear completely happy apologize to their wedding
guests for their surrender to convention, as if a part of them still
feels there is something embarrassing and weak about an intelligent
and ambitious woman consenting to marry."
The contempt that many young women feel toward marriage is an
important social problem in America today, with profound consequences
for everyone.</dd>
<dt>Why Do So Many Women File For Divorce?</dt>
<dd><i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> provides extensive research
and discussion about several questions important to every man: Why
are women negative about marriage? What is the substance behind this
negativity? Why do half of all marriages end in divorce, and why is
that women file for divorce twice as often as men do, and men oppose
the divorce twice as often as women do?
The evidence shows that women in marriage develop a "malaise" that
causes them to question and be critical of almost every aspect of
their marriages. This malaise begins almost overnight as soon as
they're married, and causes women to become extremely self-critical
and self-disparaging. What the husband does or does not do has
absolutely nothing to do with this malaise, and in fact the husband
can't do anything about it. Most men don't even know it's going on.
This malaise takes a toll on many women, often causing depression and
even illness. Even though the malaise is completely internal, a
woman talking to her girlfriends will find it easy to blame her
husband. A depressed woman talking to her girlfriends is going to be
reminded -- frequently -- that if her husband is making her unhappy
she can get rid of him, keep the children and the home, and collect
substantial child support payments.
Because of the recent substantial increases in state-mandated child
support payments, many women essentially cash out of their marriages,
calculating that they're better off collecting child support. She
gets to enjoy the "dance of liberation" (to quote one author), but
the father's life is destroyed, and their children are more likely to
be abused or an abuse victim, to become teen parents, to be involved
with drugs, and/or to be in the criminal justice system.
</dd>
<dt>How Can I Evaluate My Marriage (or Planned Marriage)?</dt>
<dd>Thanks to recent research, men can assess the likelihood that
their marriages will end in divorce, by evaluating the amount of
criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling that occur in
their marriages. A man can take steps to save his marriages, or he
can decide whether it's time to end his marriage, hopefully before
his wife becomes pregnant.
<i>Fraternizing With The Enemy</i> tells you how to use this research
to evaluate your marriage and what you can do to improve your
marriage. </dd>
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<h1>About the Author</h1>
John J. Xenakis has been a computer industry consultant for over 30
years, and a technology journalist and columnist for over 20 years,
having written on technology for the <i>Boston Globe</i> and other
publications. For ten years, he was Software Editor for the Boston
Computer Society magazine, for two years he was Boston Bureau Chief
for <i>InformationWeek Magazine</i>, and for nine years he was
Technology Editor for <i>CFO Magazine</i>.
Starting in the early 1990s, he began writing a bi-weekly column
called "Fraternizing With The Enemy," which he published on
CompuServe. Some of the material in this book was adapted from those
columns.
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title="Book Cover: Fraternizing With The Enemy" >
<h1>Table of Contents</h1>
Here's a summary of the contents of all the chapters:
<b>Chapter 1, My Story:</b> This tells you why social workers act the
way they do. If you're a man going through a contested divorce, or
dealing with social workers for any reason, then you may have already
learned that most social workers deal with men pretty acrimoniously.
Read this chapter to learn why social workers do what they do, what
they're thinking, and what their point of view is.
Why are they so offensive to men? How can you recognize it? How
do they rationalize it to themselves? And what effect does it have on
men? The material in this chapter, which is geared to helping men, is
unlike anything that's appeared in any other book.
Of all the material in this book, I strongly urge any man who is
going to be dealing with social workers (which, sooner or later, is
every man) to read chapter 1 very carefully. This chapter is
tough reading, but you'll find detailed information here on how
social workers and other feminist professionals think and act. It
literally took me years of confusion to figure this material out, and
you won't find as thorough and complete and valuable a presentation of
this subject in any other book.
Also, if you are a man expecting to go through a divorce, you should
make a point of trying to understand the overwhelming hatred you may
end up feeling for your ex-wife. You will need to manage that
hatred, so that your ex-wife won't be able to use it against you.
<b>Chapter 2, Real Rape:</b> This chapter moves into the national
political arena, analyzing how feminists have not helped women (they
don't even claim to have helped women) and how they in fact have hurt
women in their sexual harassment and rape policies.
The title of this chapter is an especially ironic one. <i>Real
Rape</i> was the title of a book by Susan Estrich, who herself had been
violently raped. When she became President Clinton's principal
defender after Clinton was credibly charged with rape, she became one
of the people whom, her book makes clear, she despises the most --
people in power (usually men) who support rapists by refusing to
condemn them. She (like other feminists) sold out herself and her
most fundamental beliefs for purely political reasons.
Like much of this book, this chapter contains information that's
intended to be educational, because I believe that the best way to
help people -- in this case, potential victims of rape -- is to have
the most accurate information available. It presents a summary of
research on how rapists work, along with some suggests for changes to
public policy with regard to rape.
<b>Chapter 3, Family Violence:</b> This addresses the questions of
domestic violence and child maltreatment. Once again, the latest
research is presented, along with an analysis of how feminist
policies have hurt women in violent relationships, and suggestions
for public policies changes to reduce domestic violence.
<b>Chapter 4, Liberation Day and the Dance of Renewal:</b> This
chapter came out of an attempt on my part to understand why it is that
twice as many women as men file for divorce, often for trivial
reasons. One of the conclusions of this chapter is that many women
seek this "Dance of Renewal" (to quote one author) because she can
take advantage of substantial child support payments she'll receive to
fund her liberation, which takes place without regard to the enormous
harm she does to her children and their father.
This chapter also contains the latest research -- this time on
predicting whether a marriage will end in divorce, and what can be
done to prevent divorce. Although this information is targeted to
men, many women in distressed marriages will also find this
information useful, if they wish to try to save their marriages.
<b>Chapter 5, Lawyers:</b> This is a short chapter on abuses by
divorce lawyers.
<b>Chapter 6, A Plea for Nonpartisan Male Activism:</b> This is an
analysis of the many, many myths about fathers that prevail in
society today. Unfortunately, we men tend to leave gender issues to
women; many men are simply afraid to talk about them. Unfortunately,
women haven't done so well, in my opinion. This chapter urges men to
become activists.
<b>Chapter 7, Due Process:</b> This chapter contains a "Model
Harassment Policy." Feminists usually define sexual harassment as any
action by a man which any woman at any times says is sexual harassment
for any reason. This Model Harassment Policy, which was developed
online by me and a sexual harassment activist working together,
defines exactly what sexual harassment is, and describes procedures
that a company can adopt to actually reduce sexual harassment in the
workplace -- something which feminist policies have so far failed to
do.
<b>Chapter 8, Miscellaneous Essays on Gender Issues:</b> This is a
collection of essays on various gender issues. Many of these essays
were previously published in my weekly online column, "Fraternizing
With The Enemy." Some of these essays contain advice, some contain
information, and others are just for fun.
<b>The Appendix, Feminist Literature:</b> This is a survey of
feminist books that I've reviewed over the years, and which have
spoken to my understanding of how feminists act and think. I believe
that every man should have some familiarity with feminist literature,
if only to understand how preposterous and even bizarre it is.
Nonetheless, many social workers and other women professionals
actually believe this material, and understanding feminist literature
means you'll have a better understand of these women professionals.
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Table of Contents
Preface xiii
Special Features of this Book xxiii
Chapter 1 - My Story 1
Open Discrimination 3
The Feminist World View 5
Sidebar: Two Divorced Full-Time Parents 11
The 1988 Meetings 13
Feminists and Child Abuse 16
Andrea Yates 18
Sidebar: Len Umina 21
First Weekend 25
Sidebar: A Mother's Experience 30
The Aftermath 31
Counting confrontations 33
Does Discrimination Matter? 35
Depressed Men 37
John Patryck 39
Murderous Rage 41
Sidebar: One Man's Experience with
Visitation Centers 45
"Anchors Around My Legs" 50
Why are feminists the way they are? 53
The "Two Worlds" Theory 55
The Domestic Violence Industry 58
Philosophy 59
Advice for Men 60
Children of Divorce 62
Questions and Answers 63
Study and Research 66
Chapter 2 - Real Rape 69
"These Women are Crazy" 70
The Political Orientation of Feminism 72
The Anita Hill Disaster 73
"The Personal is Political" 75
Was Susan Estrich Really Raped? 78
When is a crime not political? 83
Research on rape 85
Categorizing Rapists 85
Anger Retaliatory Rapists 86
Selecting Rape Victims 86
False and mistaken accusations of rape 88
Canadian Analysis of False Rape Charges 93
Rape and Pornography 95
The Trigger Event Evidence 95
"The Porn Made Me Do It" Evidence 96
Violent Pornography and Child
Pornography 98
Aggression and Attitudes Evidence 100
Why the Campaign Against Pornography
is Dangerous to Women 102
Can Pornography be an Obsession? 104
Date Rape 106
Questions and Answers 109
Study and Research 110
Chapter 3 - Family Violence 112
Why is it so hard to get accurate
family violence figures? 113
The National Family Violence
Surveys (NFVS) 117
Data from the National Family
Violence Surveys 119
Department of Justice Data on
Violence by Intimates 121
HHS Data on Child Abuse 122
HHS Data on Child Fatalities 126
Why are Women Violent? 127
Fathers vs. Stepfathers 128
Sidebar: Shaken Baby Syndrome 129
Why Violence by Women is Important 130
Feminist View of Violence by Women 134
How do we find the sociopathic or
pathological child abusers? 140
Sidebar: Child Abuse Checklist 143
Transactional Child Abuse 144
Transactional vs. Sociopathic
Child Abuse 145
Child Abuse and Domestic Violence 146
So how do we prevent child abuse? 148
Jenny Jones 149
Getting Help 151
The Mandatory Arrest Solution 156
Abuse of the System 162
Couples Seeking Help 166
Private Therapy for Relationships
with Violence 168
Sidebar: Therapy for Domestic
Violence Couples 169
Summary of Findings 170
Questions and Answers 173
Study and Research 174
Chapter 4 - Liberation Day and the
Dance of Renewal 176
Flying Solo 178
Effects of Divorce on Women and Men 179
Reasons Women Give for Seeking Divorce 180
Winners and Losers 180
Marriage Shock 182
Sidebar - The End of a Marriage 184
The Dance of Renewal 185
Funding the Dance of Renewal 186
Teen Pregnancy and Liberation Day 188
Hormones are Still King 195
"Going Hunting" 196
On Condoms and DNA Tests 197
Is Marriage Really Bad for Women? 199
Proposal: Increase Father Custody 200
Advice for Men: In Praise of Peter Pan 201
"Whatever you say, dear!" 202
Stable Marriages 204
The Four Horsemen 205
Can This Marriage be Saved? 209
Questions and Answers 211
Study and Research 211
Chapter 5 - Lawyers 212
Generating Paperwork 212
Hell Hath No Fury 213
Abusive Women Lawyers and
Feminist Lawyers 214
What can you do about it? 215
Questions and Answers 216
Study and Research 217
Chapter 6 - A Plea for Nonpartisan
Male Activism 219
Fathers' Rights Organizations 222
Feminists' Objections to Fathers'
Rights organizations 224
Sidebar - Father's Day, 1994 228
Sidebar - Father's Day, 1995 230
Men and Girls 232
Do Girls Need Physical Contact
With Their Fathers? 237
Sidebar: A daughter with a defiant
father 238
Can fathers be single parents? 239
Should We Listen to Women? 240
Study and Research 241
Chapter 7 - Due Process 242
History of the Model Harassment Policy 242
Overview of the Model Harassment Policy 243
Avoiding the Train Wreck Strategy 244
What is Harassment? 245
Third Party Behaviors 246
Escalations 246
Resolution 246
The Timid Woman Problem 247
Promoting informal solutions 248
Model Harassment Policy 249
Behavior Categories 249
Procedures for Handling Offensive
Behavior 250
Copyright Notice 251
Questions and Answers 251
Study and Research 252
Chapter 8 - Miscellaneous Essays on
Gender Issues 253
In Praise of "Girls" 253
Who's In Control? 256
Business Etiquette 258
Selecting a Dating Service 260
Together and its competitors 261
Video and Self-Selection Dating
Services 262
Premium Services 264
Being Realistic 265
Top Ten Worst Dates from Hell 267
Asking for Permission 269
Finding the Man of Your Dreams 271
Who To Avoid 271
Devaluing Former Wives 272
So Who's Left? 273
My Father 273
Coming to America 274
The Fragility of Women 275
Matrimony and Fatherhood 276
Love 278
Roxie 279
A Good Life 280
A New Life 281
Jackie O: A Retrospective 282
Paula Corbin Jones 284
Nixon: A Retrospective 286
Romeo and Juliet 288
The Verdict 291
Domestic Violence versus Racism 292
A Sickening Week 293
Angry Black Men 294
Isolated Men 294
Women Excluded 295
Men's Powerful Emotions 296
Regulating Negative Emotions 296
A Great Social Experiment 298
Abortion and Stem Cells 298
Creationism vs. Evolution 300
Computer Games for Girls and E-commerce 303
Gender differences in online
discussions 306
Women I've Known ... Online 308
Questions and Answers 316
Appendix - Feminist Literature 318
Susan Faludi's Backlash 319
How About Faludi in Reverse? 322
Marilyn French and The War Against Women 324
Andrea Dworkin 325
Lenore Weitzman's Child Support Hoax 326
The Runaround 327
Unmasking the Errors 329
Weitzman's Other Recommendations 331
The Sexual Politics of Meat 334
Naomi Wolf's Fire with Fire 335
History of Feminism 336
Victim Feminism 337
Power Feminism 339
End Notes I
Concept Index XIX
Colophon LV
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<h1>Special Features of This Book</h1>
<ul><#hreftext frater.a.contents "Table of Contents"#></ul>
This is a very unusual book for reasons beyond its subject matter.
This book was created from standard ascii text files, and formatted
by means of a series of Microsoft Word 2000 macros. (The Concept
Index required an additional tool, written in Java.)
Because of the heavy use of computer automation in formatting the
book, it has a number of special features, including the following:
<ul><li>There are many cross-references ("see page xxx") throughout
the book, relating one section of the book to another.
<li>Whenever you see a certain symbol appearing in the text, then
there's a corresponding entry in the End Notes section at the back of
the book. This is usually a reference to another book or research
paper.</li>
<li>The index to the book is a Concept Index. For example, in a
discussion of child abuse, chapter 1 contains a reference to Simone de
Beauvoir's classic book, <i>The Second Sex</i>. Suppose you're looking
for that entry. Since the entire concept is indexed, you can find
this quotation by looking up any of the words in the concept --
including Simone, Beauvoir, second, sex, child and abuse -- in the
Concept Index. So if you're looking for information about some
concept, you can find that information if you can think of just one
word in the concept.</li></ul>
Microsoft Word's macro language is incredibly powerful, and permits
you to automate a great deal of work. The drawback is that Word's
macro processing has many bugs, including a number that hang the
system and force a reboot. The worst bugs are in header/footer
handling, which has a buggy, clunky implementation.
Nonetheless, the power of the capability saved me an enormous amount
of time, even including the time rebooting and recovering from bugs.
In fact, there's a lot I could not have done without Microsoft Word's
wonderful macro processing.
The fact is, outside of writing the macros, adding all the special
features to this book -- cross-references, end notes, concept index
-- was neither hard nor time consuming.
The reason I make this point is that any publisher could make a
one-time investment in the proper tools, and use them to add a great
deal of richness to many types of books. I can imagine such things
as tiny asterisks signaling additional information elsewhere, or page
numbers in the margins or at the foot of the page for related
material.
These enhancements could be used densely in complex technical books
or textbooks, or sparingly in such books as novels, to remind a
reader the page number where a certain character was first
introduced.
In fact, I recently read a technical book which used the
cross-referencing feature ("see page xxx") heavily, and it's hard to
exaggerate how much of a <i>pleasure</i> it was. Whenever the author
referenced an earlier discussion, she always had an adjacent page
number reference that made the book much easier, faster and more fun
to read.
The ironic thing, of course, is that these are the paper book analog
of "hyperlinks" on the internet, or in electronic books. The fact is
with very little trouble, we can get many of the advantages of
high-tech electronic books within our old low-tech printed books, and
publishers should look at ways to do that.
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<h1>The Battered Woman Package</h1>
The <b>The Battered Woman Package</b> is a package of payments and
services that any woman can get by claiming to be battered or abused,
whether the charges are true or not. How much is the Battered Woman
Package worth?
A false charge of battering is valuable for the woman bringing the
charges, and is very lucrative for a number of women's organizations
that provide the services. These organizations -- social service
organizations, court clinics, women's shelters, visitation centers,
feminist legal services agencies, women's protective services -- all
stand to gain sums of money by supporting as many false charges of
battering and abuse as possible.
One man, Rick Brita, has estimated how much money these women's
organizations have collected from the taxpayer. His case is a
somewhat unusual one -- his ex-girlfriend, with whom he has two
children, is an illegal alien who brought false charges of domestic
violence in order to keep from being deported. <#hreftext
frater.a.brita "Click here"#> for Rick Brita's story.
<b>According to Brita's estimates, his girlfriend's successful
strategy for avoiding deportation has cost the taxpayers <#include
frater.a.batpak.totaldollars#> -- and it's increasing by tens of
thousands per year.</b>
Here's a breakdown of all the money that taxpayers have paid for this
woman, who used brought false charges of abuse to avoid deportation.
These figures are provided by estimates from Brita:
<table border="1" cellpadding="1" align="center">
<tr>
<th>Expense Item</th>
<th>Estimated Expense</th>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Welfare and food stamps</b> -- 8 years at $300 per
month.</td>
<td align="right">$28,800</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Full medical coverage</b> -- medical insurance for
herself and two children, including free medication and
co-payments -- 8 years at $800 per month.</td>
<td align="right">$76,800</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Free Section 8 housing</b> -- 8 years at $1000
per month</td>
<td align="right">$96,000</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Free Safe House</b> -- 8 times over six year
period, 1-3 months each time, total estimate
of 12 months, at $60 per night.<br>
<font size="-1">Feminists require women receiving aid
to live in women's shelters for a few months each year,
in order to build up the occupancy for these shelters
in order to justify higher budgets.</font>
</td>
<td align="right">$21,600</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Free Legal Support For Probate Court</b> -- Over 200
court appearances and hearings, requiring women's
organization
lawyers, paralegals, and other support personnel.<br>
<font size="-1">Note: The ex-girlfriend is given
extensive legal support, including massive preparation,
legal searches, filings, document preparation, and so
forth. They even spend money to have someone pick up
the ex-girlfriend, drive her to the courthouse, and
drive her back.</font><br>
Estimate 8 hours of support average for each appearance,
and at an average cost of $30 per hour.</td>
<td align="right">$48,000</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Free Immigration Law Support</b> -- Estimate about
200 hours of support to the ex-girlfriend, who is
an illegal alien, at $50 per hour.<br>
The higher hourly rate is justified, since immigration
law is a higher-priced specialty.</td>
<td align="right">$10,000</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td><b>Free Day Care</b> -- Ex-girlfriend has been putting
the children into day care for 5 days per week
for four years. Estimating $200 per week for 200
weeks.</td>
<td align="right">$40,000</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<th align="left">Total Expense</td>
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</tr>
</table>
That's <#include frater.a.batpak.totaldollars#> for just one false
charge of abuse. There are 70,000 such charges brought by women's
organizations each year in Massachusetts alone, so false charges of
abuse cost taxpayers tens of millions of dollars in Massachusetts,
and billions of dollars nationwide.
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<h1>Rick Brita</h1>
Rick Brita (real name) has become something of an activist against
Massachusetts visitation centers, as a result of his own experience.
As a result, he's spoken to a number of people, and he's been able to
establish the connection that shows how false accusations of domestic
violence generate funds for social worker organizations.
Brita is the father of two children by his estranged girlfriend, who
is not an American citizen. His troubles started in 1995, when his
girlfriend was being threatened with deportation. Since their two
children were American citizens, he wanted the children to stay in the
country.
"The only way she could get a green card to stay in the country was
to take out a restraining order against me," says Brita. His
girlfriend got the help of the South Middlesex Legal Services, a
grant-funded group of lawyers whose purpose is to educate women on
how to get restraining orders and to provide free legal support.
Their clients are instructed to stay away from their husbands in order
to be able to collect money. As we'll see below, this arrangement
has been extremely lucrative for this legal services firm.
As a result of her completely unsupported accusation, the judge held
up any deportation orders, and also ordered that Brita could only see
his children at the Visitation Center at 5 Sacramento St. in
Cambridge.
Brita has spoken to a number of men who attend the same Visitation
Center, and has put together a picture of what attending these is
like.
"There's no privacy," says Brita. "Every visit is supervised by a
counselor from a battered woman's shelter. She writes down
everything you say, and if you raise your voice, she writes down that
you're violent. You can't hug your kids without her permission. If
you say the wrong thing, she reprimands you in front of your kids.
They lecture you on parenting in front of the children. If you ever
object, that's part of the validation that you're a violent person.
If you tell your child to do something, she'll say to the child, 'You
don't have to listen to him. You just have to listen to your
mother.'"
According to Brita, the counselors set a number of arbitrary rules,
and change them constantly. As an example, he points to a time when
he brought a birthday cake for his daughter, having asked permission
and set it up with the head of the center well in advance. When he
got there, the counselor made a scene and reprimanded him in front of
his children for breaking the rules and bringing a cake. His
protestations that he had obtained advance permission were useless.
"It's like a black man being judged by the Ku Klux Klan," he says.
The charges are steep, and they get steeper as time goes on. For
Brita, they started at $20 per visit, and kept increasing up to $120.
Even worse, "the visits started out at two hours, then they cut it
down to one and one half hours, sometimes less, because they don't
have a counselor available." In addition, if a father wants to obtain
the notes taken by the counselor during a visit, they charge $25 in
"copying fees."
There are a number of other expenses as well. "They can require you
to go to counselors, they make you go to a child psychologist. You
have to pay for that, in addition to visitation fees, copying fees,
child support and alimony. They make you pay thousands of dollars
just to have a relationship with your children, all from a false
charge of abuse or domestic violence."
With this remark we're beginning to see the nexus between money and
false charges of abuse or domestic violence -- each man who is
charged -- falsely or not -- is worth thousands of dollars to the
social worker community.
Brita says he's investigated how these visitation centers are funded,
and indicates that the more charges of abuse -- true or not -- that
they can generate, the more money they receive -- and not just from
fees paid by fathers.
"These are all private agencies, and they all receive grants from the
government and United Way, in addition to the fees they collect from
the fathers," he says. He says that the battered women's shelters,
visitation centers, psychologists, pediatricians and the DSS
(Massachusetts Division of Social Services) all cooperate with each
other to keep the money coming in.
"They get a woman to make false allegations of abuse, then they talk
to their friends in the DSS and get them to recommend Visitation
Centers," he says. "They all make sure that they get paid first.
Everyone makes a buck out of this."
Brita has been to trial several times, and brought material witnesses
who were able to disprove all of the false charges. "For example, I
was able to prove that I was out of the state at the time of several
of her claims." Even the Framingham police testified in his favor.
Brita was able finally to get a judge in Marlboro Probate Court to
lift the restraining order, and order that he be allowed to visit
with his children in his home.
"The lawyers at the South Middlesex Legal Services took immediate
action," he said, "and somehow got the whole case reheard in front of
judge Sheila McGovern in Cambridge." McGovern, who is in charge of
the Middlesex Probate Court in Cambridge, is well known as a militant
feminist judge.
When Brita appeared before this judge, his lawyer explained that his
girlfriend had never provided even one piece of evidence to back her
claims, and that in fact previous court trials had proven him
innocent several times. Sheila McGovern just asked his girlfriend,
"Are you afraid of this man?" The girlfriend said, "Yes." McGovern
reinstated the restraining order that had just been lifted. "I'd
rather be safe than sorry. We're on the side of protection."
This clearly illustrates the fact that the collusion that we've
previously described between social workers also extends to women
judges. We've shown in detail how the Middlesex Court Clinic, headed
by Barbara Hauser, has a policy of always siding with the mother
against the father, irrespective of any facts.
In fact, the Middlesex Court Clinic is part of the Middlesex Probate
Court, headed by Sheila McGovern. This suggests that the policy of
always siding with the mother against the father is approved by
McGovern, and here we see that the actual policy appears to extend to
McGovern herself. Obviously the lawyers at the feminist South
Middlesex Legal Services firm knew in advance that McGovern would
take jurisdiction away from the Marlboro court that had lifted the
restraining order and would reinstate it even with no evidence
whatsoever, which is what she did.
Furthermore, the sole effect of McGovern's reinstatement of the order
was to force Brita to continue returning to the Visitation Center
which is down the street from McGovern's court in Cambridge, and
which also works closely with McGovern. As a result of her order,
this visitation center would receive thousands more in fees and
grants. This shows how all these feminist organizations, -- the
Probate Court, the Court Clinic, the feminist legal services firms,
the feminist-run visitation centers -- all work together to generate
lucrative fees and grants.
According to Brita, "Female judges are taking over the family courts,
so that women have total control over the court systems, social
services, and the visitation centers. They all cooperate with each
for their mutual benefit, so you may think that you're having a
dispute with your ex-wife, but you're actually having a dispute with
a number of women's activists. There are male judges, but they're
older, and they just want to get their pensions, so they go with the
flow. So the women have total control of the court system, the DSS
and the visitation centers."
This is very lucrative for these women's activist organizations,
according to Brita, especially South Middlesex Legal Services firm.
"My girlfriend has cost the state of Massachusetts over $300,000," he
says. "She's had three different lawyers representing her against me,
and she's had four immigration lawyers, all paid for by the state," he
says. "She's picked up and driven to and from court by the South
Middlesex Legal Serivces. She's on welfare, and gets free housing,
food, and all these other services, all paid for by the government."
He adds that she has a job. "She works every day, and sends all that
money back to her relatives in Brazil," he says.
And, as we'll see in chapter 3, tens of thousands of false charges of
domestic violence are generated each year in Massachusetts alone.
Judging by Brita's research, these false charges are extremely
lucrative for all these private feminist agencies, probably
generating millions or perhaps tens of millions of dollars per year.
This might mean billions of dollars nationwide.
And obviously the most lucrative accusations are the false ones, for
a couple of reasons.
A man who is guilty is less likely to fight back, and is probably
less likely even to bother to try to see his kids. He won't generate
any revenue for these feminist-run organizations.
But a falsely accused man will fight back in court, and will fight to
spend time with his kids. For both of these reasons, all of this
generates fees, budgets and grants for all the feminist organizations
-- the probate court, the court clinic, the visitation centers, the
feminist legal services firms, the child psychologists, and so forth.
Even worse, Massachusetts is one of several dozen states where, once
a restraining order is issued, all the woman has to do is call the
local police and say that she thinks the restraining order has been
violated, and the man will automatically be arrested, with no hearing
or anything. This is a tool that the feminist organizations can use
at will against any man who has done absolutely nothing wrong -- and
judging from my interviews with men, it's used quite often.
And it's a sure bet that the feminist organizations are going to win,
because they have a policy of always siding with the mother against
the father, in accordance with feminist "theory," as we've shown.
As we'll also see, feminists vehemently oppose mandatory arrest for
alleged batterers, since a man accused of an actual crime would have
Constitutional rights. McGovern didn't actually charge Brita with
anything, since then he could have demanded that evidence be
presented; instead she simply reinstated a phony restraining order,
which was not a criminal charge, but which generated the desired
lucrative fees and grants.
Most important, nobody is claiming that restraining orders protect
anyone, including the feminists that implement the various policies.
As we'll see in chapter 3. research has found no difference in abuse
between women with and without restraining orders, and that 96% of
women don't even bother to renew restraining orders when they expire
after a year.
Sheila McGovern surely knows that, and when she said to Brita, "I'd
rather be safe than sorry. We're on the side of protection," with no
evidence whatsoever, she was surely aware that there was no evidence
against Brita anyway, and the only thing being protected was her own
power and budget and the lucrative incomes of her friends in other
feminist organizations.
There's an interesting legal wrinkle associated with Brita's
girlfriend's strategy. Brita says that she's using the
restraining order to prevent him from paying her any child
support. Under advice from his lawyer, Brita has tried to get
several agencies to accept his child support payments, but
they've all refused, including the Massachusetts Department of
Revenue (DOR), which normally collects child support payments
from fathers through payroll deductions. "Since I'm self-employed
[as a home improvement contractor], they refused to take my
money," he says.
So, following his lawyer's instructions, he's been placing his child
support payments into a bank escrow account. "If she collects the
child support, then she can't collect welfare or get subsidized
housing," he says, adding that her strategy is force him to pay tens
of thousands of dollars in back child support as a lump sum when the
children come of age. "I'm trying to find a way to stop that," he
says.
Brita faces an additional hardship because he went to court to fight
for his rights. The Visitation Center counselors threatened to keep
him from seeing his children at all if he took them to court. He did
so, and now they've refused to let him see his children since 1999,
possibly to intimidate other fathers who might try to fight back.
In addition to getting to know a number of men who are being forced
to used Visitation Centers, he's also gotten to know a number of
young women who are involved in the domestic violence scene from the
women's point of view. On one occasion, he wanted to help a female
friend who was applying for subsidized housing by going with her to
the housing office in Framingham. With him standing there, she spoke
to a social worker. He describes the conversation she had with the
social workers as follows:
<ul><i>"There's a two-year wait for subsidized housing. Are you
married?"
"Divorced."
"Did your husband abuse you?"
"No."
"Well, there's a two-year wait for subsidized housing, but if your
husband has been abusing you, then we can put you into a battered
women's shelter for two months, and then put you into subsidized
housing. Now let me ask you again: Did your husband abuse you?"</i>
[Hesitating] <i>"Yes."</i></ul>
She was instructed to fill out forms establishing her need for
housing and to claim that her husband was abusing her. She was told
that she <i>must</i> move into the battered women's shelter for two
months in order to qualify for the subsidized housing.
"Women like my friend are golden geese to the agencies," says Brita.
"They make a lot of money this way."
These experiences establish a clear nexus between false charges of
domestic violence and a great deal of money, and show how these
Massachusetts social services organizations may be making millions or
even tens of millions of dollars from these false charges.
Brita says, "I've spent the better part of eight years just trying to
find out why this happened to me. Before meeting her I've never been
accused of anything. I come from a family that's never had a divorce
-- my parents' marriage, both my grandparents' marriages are all
intact. I don't understand why any of this stuff happened. I have
no concept of this."
Brita has some very strong advice for any father who's being forced
to see his children at a Visitation Center: "Don't go!"
He says that once you go to the Visitation Center, they'll never let
you out. "They document everything you say do," he reminds me. "If
you break a rule, or raise your voice, then they can use anything you
say as proof that you're a violent person, and they can force you to
continue going. But if you don't go, then they have nothing on the
record to use against you.
He recommends taking parenting classes or doing some volunteer work
with children, and then getting a letter of recommendation saying how
good you are with children.
"That way <i>you're</i> in control instead of the counselors at the
Visitation Center," he says. "After six months, you can go back to
court and show them the letters of recommendation and ask to visit
with your children at home. They'll have nothing that they can use
against you, so you'll probably win."
Of course, this kind of legal strategy might not work for every man's
situation. Before attempting this or any other legal strategy, be
sure to check with your attorney first.
Brita says ruefully, "If I'd never gone to the Visitation Center in
the first place, none of this would have happened, and my kids would
probably be here at home with me right now."
-- Excerpted from "Fraternizing with the Enemy: A book on gender
issues for men ... and for women who care about men," by John J.
Xenakis, published by 1stBooks.com, 480 pages, to appear in late
2001.
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exists. But yes, the terrorist is a figment of our imaginationand
more, a figment of our lack of imagination. The terrorist is the
logical incarnation of patriarchal politics in a technological world.
The terrorist is the son practicing what the father has practiced, and
claiming to have found his own identity in doing so [italics
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patriarchy and that the United States itself is its chief
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<dt>John J. Xenakis to Run for Massachusetts State Auditor</dt>
<dd>John J. Xenakis is running for State Auditor in Massachusetts as
part of the slate for Barbara C. Johnson's independent run for
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<dt>Book Launch -- March 27, 2002</dt>
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amazed at the depth and information provided. In fact, on
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<h1>A New Web Site on Gender Issues for Men ... And
For Women Who Care About Men</h1>
(Framingham, MA, 11/01/01) Have you ever wished there were a source of
expertise on gender issues from a male point of view?
Sure, there are some male talking heads already -- Bill Bennett and
others who speak from a Republican Party / Christian right
perspective, opposing the Democratic Party / feminist left view.
<a href="http://www.fraternizing.org" class="clickhere">
http://www.fraternizing.org</a> is a new web site filling an important
gap, analyzing gender issues in America from a non-partisan,
non-religious male point of view.
"There are many things that men and women don't understand about each
other, but almost all commentators on gender issues are women," says
author John J. Xenakis. "We need more men expressing male opinions on
gender issues. That's not to say that all men agree with each other,
just as not all women agree with each other. But a male view is
distinctly different from a female point of view, and both views need
to be heard."
Topics will include: Marriage, Rape, Sexual Harassment, Child Abuse,
Domestic Violence, Feminism, Divorce and Custody.
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<h1>An Important New Book on Gender Issues for Men ... And
For Women Who Care About Men</h1>
<h2>"Fraternizing With The Enemy" takes a non-partisan,
non-religious approach, with a MALE point of view</h2>
(Framingham, MA, 3/27/02) Have you ever wished there were a source of
expertise on gender issues from a male point of view?
Sure, there are some male talking heads already -- Bill Bennett and
others who speak from a Republican Party / Christian right
perspective, opposing the Democratic Party / feminist left view.
"Fraternizing With The Enemy: A Book on Gender Issues For Men ... And
for Women Who Care About Men" is a new book filling an important gap,
analyzing gender issues in America from a non-partisan, non-religious
male point of view.
"There are many things that men and women don't understand about each
other, but almost all commentators on gender issues are women," says
author John J. Xenakis. "We need more men expressing male opinions on
gender issues. That's not to say that all men agree with each other,
just as not all women agree with each other. But a male view is
distinctly different from a female point of view, and both views need
to be heard."
Not hearing a male point of view hurts women as well as men,
according to Xenakis, and sexual harassment represents a good
example.
"I worked with sexual harassment activist Cheryl Kondratow to develop
a Model Harassment Policy," he says. "This is a great example of how
men and women can work together to really help women solve an
important problem."
Xenakis also indicates that men have to be extremely cautious today.
"I've been truly astounded by the number of young women, even women
who don't call themselves feminists, who have a contemptuous view of
marriage," he says. "Many young women routinely describe marriage as
'serving the needs of some man' or 'being a slave of a man'. This
fact is enormously important to men, but few of them are aware of it.
Men have to learn to become much more careful about whom they marry."
These views of young women seem to be counterbalanced by a kind of
"backlash" among older women, according to Xenakis. "I hear from a
lot of grandmothers and second wives who are extremely upset and
troubled about what's happening to their sons or husbands," he says.
"In fact, these days I'm probably hearing more concerns from women
than from men about what's happening to men today."
This 440-page book is based on 15 years of research, and hundreds of
interviews with men, women, feminists, experts, as well as extensive
literature research, and is packed with facts, figures and information
that men -- and women who care about men -- need to know.
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<h1>Changing Social Worker Policies May Help Protect Women
From 'Separation Violence'</h1>
(Framingham, MA, 3/27/02) Women say that some of their greatest
anxieties occur when they or their friends are going through a
separation or divorce, based on well-publicized statistics that a man
is more likely to commit suicide or kill his wife or kids at that time
than at any other time in his life.
These women fear for the their lives, and for the lives of their
friends, their children, and the men as well.
It's possible that social workers can alleviate some of these
concerns and anxieties by changing certain policies, according to
"Fraternizing With The Enemy: A Book on Gender Issues For Men ... And
for Women Who Care About Men," a new book analyzing gender issues in
America.
"A number of women have told me that fear they violence by their
husbands, or the husbands of their friends, when they're going
through a separation," says author John J. Xenakis. "I also hear from
grandmothers and second wives expressing the same sorts of concerns
about their divorced sons and husbands."
Xenakis interviewed hundreds of men and women for his book, and found
some issues that help explain the patterns that lead to these violence
problems and how they can be prevented.
"Social workers overwhelmingly believe that the only way to protect
women and children is to keep children away from their fathers as a
matter of policy," says Xenakis. "In some cases that may help protect
women, but in most cases it appears to enormously aggravate the
situation."
Xenakis says that these social worker policies appear to be making
women and children more vulnerable to violence.
"It's like poking a stick at an enraged grizzly bear," he says.
"Social workers do some very counterproductive things as a matter of
policy."
Social workers should change their policies not only to protect women
and children, but also to protect themselves from legal action, based
on emerging trends in the law, according to Xenakis.
According to a recent Wall Street Journal article on violence in the
workplace, "companies are increasingly being held to blame. September
11 may accelerate that trend."
"That article was on a different subject, but it's related in the
sense that lawyers are suing more and more business people when any
violence occurs in the workplace, if those business people were
negligent in taking steps to provide adequate security," says Xenakis.
"If those business lawsuits start being successful, then a social
worker who is negligent or provocative might also become the target
of lawsuits when violence occurs."
[The Wall Street Journal article referenced above is, "Whose Fault Is
It? When there's violence in the workplace, companies are
increasingly being held to blame. Sept. 11 may accelerate that
trend," by Milo Geyelin, Wall Street Journal, March 11, 2002, p. R14]
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<h1>Social Workers Hold Conflicting, Highly Emotional Views in
Divorce Cases</h1>
<h2>Mass. social worker consultant calls author "worse than a
batterer"</h2>
(Framingham, MA, 3/27/02) Fifteen years of studying social worker
policies and feminist theory have revealed numerous contradictions in
social worker policies, many of which increase battering and child
abuse.
"Social workers want to serve the best interests of the children,"
says John J. Xenakis, author of "Fraternizing With The Enemy: A Book
on Gender Issues For Men ... And for Women Who Care About Men," a new
book analyzing gender issues in America.
"However, social workers overwhelmingly believe that the only way to
protect women and children is to keep children away from their
fathers as a matter of policy," says Xenakis. "However, this sometimes
conflicts with the best interests of the children, and may sometimes
have the unintended consequence of exposing children to additional
child abuse.
Social worker Carrie Phillips told Xenakis, "Whenever the father and
mother disagree, we always side with the mother, because that's
what's in the best interests of the children." At the time, Phillips
worked at the Middlesex Court Clinic, a Cambridge social worker
clinic associated with the divorce court.
Barbara Hauser, who heads this clinic, told Xenakis that she believes
that a young child will be "traumatized" if he spends the weekend
with his father,
An even more aggressive statement came from Dr. Mary Scott, a
pediatrician who works with Mass. social workers, who issued a written
opinion that its her policy, and the policy of her office, Longwood
Pediatrics of Boston, that children under two should always be
prevented from spending more than three hours at a time with their
fathers.
However, figures from the Dept. of Health and Human Services indicate
that, surprisingly, these policies leave children even more exposed
to rape and child abuse. According to the HHS figures, most child
abusers are mothers, and most sexual abusers are stepfathers or
fathers' boyfriends. Social workers and pediatricians who keep
children away from their biological fathers are actually exposing them
to more child abuse and rape.
However, social workers generally ignore these child abuse figures,
according to Xenakis.
One Massachusetts social worker consultant, Lundy Bancroft, told
Xenakis that a mother often hits a child in order to protect the
child from worse punishment from the father. "A woman might be doing
the right thing to hit her children, since if they've already been
spanked then the man will leave them alone, and otherwise he'll hit
them harder than she would."
When Xenakis told Bancroft that his book would include more than one
point of view, Bancroft said, "You're worse than a batterer. The more
points of view you get, the more insidiously your views will support
batterers."
In the fifteen years he's been studying social workers, Xenakis has
been repeatedly shocked by attitudes like these. "Social workers
have created a closed, incestuous community that won't tolerate any
opinion or policies but theirs," he says. "That would be OK, except
their policies often promote additional violence, rape and abuse."
Xenakis's book analyzed numerous social worker policies, and finds
that they're motivated by money, even though they often increase the
amount of battering and violence.
For example, women's activists oppose mandatory jailing of batterers,
because they believe that jailing batterers means there's less need
for women's shelters.
"Feminists would rather have more women in women's shelters, along
with the money and political power that come with them," says
Xenakis. "It's incredible, but social workers prefer leaving batterers
out of jail on the streets so that they can batter more women, and
justify even more funding for women's shelters," he adds.
Another policy shows how feminists exploit and hurt lesbians.
Feminists frequently use the issue of discrimination against lesbians
as a political fund-raising issue, but social workers turn their
backs on lesbian victims of domestic violence, which occurs just as
frequently in lesbian relationships as in heterosexual relationships.
"It's ironic. Feminists love lesbians when they can exploit them for
money or political gain," says Xenakis. "But when, as frequently
happens, a lesbian is battered, abused, gouged or raped by her lover,
social workers become homophobic and turn their backs on her, because
helping her would require admitting that women in the home are just as
violent as men, and might reduce funding for women's shelters."
Xenakis finds one particular institution, the Visitation Centers,
abominable.
"These places are incredibly loathsome, and most of the public
doesn't even know they exist," says Xenakis. "They charge a father
$100 an hour to visit his own children, and the visit is supervised
by a woman's advocate who treats the father contemptuously in front
of his own children. If the father objects in any way, she reports
to the court that he's been violent."
Judge Sheila McGovern, the head of the Cambridge probate court, is
one of the most aggressive users of Visitation Centers, according to
Xenakis.
"The Visitation Center at 5 Sacramento Street in Cambridge brings in
huge amounts of money to Judge McGovern," he says. "She has a policy
of forcing hundreds of men to use this center even when she's certain
that the charges against the man are completely false, and even when
the mother is battering or abusing the children. McGovern's actions,
which are unethical and possibly illegal, have the purpose of
bringing millions of dollars in fees and grants into the hands of her
political cronies."
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<h1>New Book on Gender Issues Covers Wide Variety of Topics</h1>
<h2>Topics include: Marriage, Rape, Sexual Harassment, Child Abuse,
Domestic Violence, Feminism, Divorce and Custody -- Even Dating
Services</h2>
The following is a list of topics covered by the book <i>Fraternizing
with The Enemy</i>:
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Marriage
Why twice as many women as men file for divorce.
Research that indicates why women become dissatisfied with
their marriages -- almost overnight after wedding day.
How you can evaluate your own marriage.
How you can save your marriage -- and why.
Rape
How women's groups treat rape as a fund-raising vehicle.
How women's groups send the message that rape is OK.
How women's groups hurt the credibility of real rape victims.
How serious is date rape?
Latest research on how rapists get away with what they do.
Research relating pornography to rape.
Sexual Harassment
How women lost millions of good paying jobs by
pursual of aggressive sexual harassment policies.
How sexual harassment policies have hurt women in the workplace.
How to actually reduce sexual harassment, instead of just talking
about reducing it.
Child Abuse
"Sociopathic" child abuse versus "transactional" child abuse.
Latest HHS figures on types of child abuse and perpetrators.
Why women's activists don't discuss physical and
emotional child abuse.
How to reduce child abuse.
Domestic Violence
National Family Violence Survey figures on family violence.
Seeking help if you're in a violent relationship.
What to do to save a relationship which contains some violence.
Why women stay with violent husbands.
Why violence by women is important, and why the feminist view
of violence by women is wrong.
How women's activists exploit lesbians: Using them for
fund-raising, but ignoring them when they're in
violent relationships
What kind of children become batterers?
Feminism
How feminists, through Emily's List and NOW, are by far the
wealthiest and most powerful political force in the country
Analysis of feminist literature and feminist "theory."
How feminist organizations put politics ahead of women.
Why fewer women are calling themselves feminists.
Why "power feminism" is important for women.
Why feminists claim that (promoting) marriage is dangerous for
women.
A plea for male activism and the male point of view.
Divorce and Custody
How social workers think.
Why social workers try to prevent children from seeing their
fathers.
Why social workers treat men so contemptuously.
How social workers ignore child abuse by women.
How social worker organizations benefit by bringing false
domestic violence charges.
Other Gender Topics
In praise of "girls"
How women and men control each other.
Business etiquette - why women are different from men.
The worst dates from hell.
Dating services.
For single women: How to find the man of your dreams.
How men regulate their powerful emotions.
Jackie O - A Retrospective.
Computer games for girls.
Differences between men and women online.
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